Prepare Clothing and Presentation

Choose clothing that reflects the person—a favorite outfit, uniform, sports jersey, or cultural dress are all appropriate. The funeral home can dress the deceased in almost anything. Practical tips: bring a complete outfit including undergarments, and choose items that button or zip in the front (easier for the funeral home to dress). Shoes are optional and often not visible. Bring the clothing to the funeral home 1-2 days before the viewing.

Children as young as 3-4 can attend if they are prepared for what they will see and experience. Explain in advance that the person will look like they are sleeping, their skin may feel cold, and they will not respond. Let the child choose whether to attend—never force it. Assign a trusted adult to stay with the child who can leave with them if needed. Excluding children can leave them feeling confused or abandoned in their grief.

Decide before the viewing whether jewelry should be buried or cremated with the deceased or returned to the family. Inform the funeral home of your decision in writing—include specifics (e.g., "Remove wedding ring; leave watch"). Jewelry left on during cremation will be destroyed. Valuable items should generally be removed. Some families place meaningful but inexpensive items in the casket: letters, photos, a favorite book, or a small memento.

Consider the deceased's wishes (if known), the condition of the body, cultural and religious traditions, and the family's comfort level. If the death involved trauma, the funeral home can sometimes restore appearance—ask about restorative art options. A partial viewing (casket open for family only, closed for the public service) is a common compromise. There is absolutely no obligation to have an open casket, and a closed casket with a photo displayed is equally dignified.