Plan Service Type and Details

Funeral Planning & Arrangements
Decide whether the service will include a funeral, memorial, viewing, or graveside component. Consider religious, cultural, or family preferences.

Frequently Asked Questions

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What is the difference between a funeral, memorial, and celebration of life?
A funeral is a formal ceremony with the body or cremated remains present, often held at a funeral home or place of worship. A memorial service is similar but without the body present—it can take place anywhere, anytime. A celebration of life focuses on honoring the person's life with stories, music, and personal touches, often in a less formal setting like a park, restaurant, or home. All three serve the same purpose: gathering to grieve and remember.
Can we have a secular or non-religious service?
Yes. Secular services are increasingly common and can be deeply meaningful. A civil celebrant, family member, or friend can officiate. Include personal readings, poetry, favorite songs, photo slideshows, and shared memories. Structure the service however feels right—there are no rules. Professional celebrants ($200-$500) specialize in creating personalized non-religious ceremonies and can help with planning and scripting if you want guidance.
Religious
What are the religious requirements for a funeral service?
Requirements vary widely: Catholic funerals typically include a vigil, funeral Mass, and committal rite, and the priest should be contacted early. Jewish tradition calls for burial within 24 hours, no embalming, and a simple wooden casket. Islamic funerals require washing of the body, shrouding, prayer (Salat al-Janazah), and prompt burial facing Mecca. Protestant and non-denominational services are generally more flexible. Contact the deceased's clergy to understand specific requirements.
Can we combine different religious or cultural traditions?
Yes. Many families blend traditions to honor a person's full identity—for example, combining a Catholic Mass with a Native American smudging ceremony, or a Jewish shiva with a secular celebration of life. Communicate with all officiants or spiritual leaders in advance to ensure compatibility and avoid any unintentional disrespect. Most clergy are willing to accommodate blended ceremonies when approached respectfully and given advance notice.

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